So today has been an interesting day. I’ve looked at ALL of my interactions from the perspective of law of attraction. Mostly with success, though some of the corrections were slow in process.
I started the day draggy with not quite enough sleep to make up for shaperoning the overnight teen lock-in & having worked on consecutive nights. 8 hours would normally have been enough, but not when already in a severe sleep deficit. I definitely need to get back on my sleep schedule.
While eating my healthy breakfast of salmon & veggies, I listened to some pick- me-up music and Abraham YouTube videos. That helped. I continued with that theme on the way into the metro and by the time I got to work I was doing great.
A few moments (tv induced) at work had me slipping. I confirmed with Nathan by text:
“So to make sure I’ve got this down…. if fear based tv makes me feel very uncomfortable, then it’s because what’s in my vortex is so very the opposite- right?…”
I was referencing an Abraham video I’d watched, referencing the good things in your vibrational escrow and being very sensitive to vibrations.
It at least seems that I’m now getting a hang of understanding my emotional dips. All the causes and whys of the deviations. Droopy makes me uncomfortable because I know I want more sleep. Fear based TV makes me uncomfortable because in my spirit I know there’s nothing to really be afraid of. My driving (right) leg hurting makes me upset and uncomfortable because I know I want to drive less and work the muscles loose indefinitely. My low back hurting is an acknowledgement of needing more core support, both physically and metaphorically.
So all in all, it really was a great day, even with the dips, because I now have a fuller understanding of this law of attraction thing and how my depression is way more controllable now. Not only can I see the causes in real time, but I’m getting way better at correcting and heading things off at the pass.
I took the opportunity to interject some appreciation and things I want.
I appreciate beautiful landscapes that country living provides. I appreciate beautiful flowers both intentionally planted and wild. I appreciate the quiet and natural sounds that proliferate in my rural experiences. I appreciate freedoms (lack of regulations) that come with living rural (construction, land utilization options, noise, waste management and utility options). Here’s some feel good images I took yesterday with this in mind.
Things I appreciate about the city though (& why I want to live closer to the city) :
- Easy access to all conveniences.
- Fun things to do (zoo, amusement parks, events, music, entertainment, skydiving, laser tag, museums, etc.)
- Restaurants, hotels, & other amenities…. airport.
- Everything being close together.
- Safety through fire & other rescue services, & hospitals.
I thought about how some of these things could be incorporated into Atira, but some would just simply need to be nearby to still be a draw. I’m feeling very powerful in my tuning of my attraction dial this evening.
So then I turned my attention to family. Again?! Right, I know. A bit of a broken record on that lately. That’s what happens when you think somethings a sure bet and then it falls through.
Anyway, Nathan and I had always hoped for that unicorn Bi-woman that would mesh perfectly with both of us. A long shot, but worth looking for. When my boy was talking to me, and I was seeing things, I thought we’d found a good second option: a man that meshed perfectly with me, was comfortable with Nathan and family, and bringing along another woman that might also be a wonderful addition (especially for Nathan).
Anyway, I don’t want to negate that as a possibility, especially since I felt so good about it. However, I felt some clarity might be in order. I want anyone coming into the family to know that Nathan and I fully expect to accept them as family, and that it doesn’t necessarily mean sex is required. There are many poly families that have embraced someone that is platonic, or only intimate with one person. It’s ok, it’s whatever is needed. I know that Nathan and I talked about someone’s comfort level as being top priority. We want our chosen family to know that we love and support them the best way we know how regardless of the details and daily interactions.
It’s something I’ve been working on explaining repeatedly to Ian- usually in bite sized pieces in toddler friendly language. I’ve told Ian many times that I love him and always will because he’s my son. It doesn’t mean I’ll like him every minute of every day. I explained that when something’s happened like breaking something that’s not his, I’m likely to be mad at him. There’s other things I might get frustrated over, because that’s me and my emotional responses. But none of that will last, and I’ll always circle back to loving him because he’s my son, my family. Nothing really matters or lasts because I love him, but he can’t expect me to constantly exude that 24/7/365 because I’m human too, I will have bad days even when I’m generally in a good place.
I sincerely hope that adults added to our family understand that. I can’t guarantee that I’ll be perfect, but if I make that kind of commitment I mean it. I’ll do everything I can to make it work and overcome obstacles. And if there is a fight or butting of heads, I know it won’t last. I will figure out a way to circle back to loving acceptance.
Beyond that, I’d love to have a woman willing to interact with me intimately, but it’s by no means mandatory. I’d be ok with my men.
And the ability to participate sexually doesn’t necessarily determine beauty or love. I think most women are strong and beautiful and deserve to be told so frequently. I think that is why I’ve fallen for even the ones that didn’t work out, and it’s ok. What it means is that any woman willing to commit to our family has a place in my heart, especially if she is in love with a partner of mine. That in a nutshell is compersion, finding happiness via the enjoyable experiences of your partners, even when not having participated in the experiences. And anyone causing compersion deserves to be loved.
So…. I’d love a Bi-woman, or a man & a bi-woman, or a man & straight woman, or a man & bi-woman & straight woman.
The combinations are less important than the sense of commitment and loving as family. As long as I can love you and count on you as my family, that’s all that matters. You only sleep 1/3 of your life, & most of that is actually sleep! It’s the daytime that matters more. HA Ha!