So, “Cry me a river” by Justin Timberlake was just on the radio. It made me think, he speaks of loving the woman but not giving her a second chance when she realizes what a huge mistake she made going after another man initially.
I think in my world that is an unfounded reaction. I know if the boy ever came back and was genuine and sincere, I’d take him back in a heartbeat.
It’s the wonderful side effect of loving someone truly. That deep of a love acknowledges that we’re all stumbling through this life the best way we can. Sometimes our first decisions might be grounded in logic, but don’t work out the way they are supposed to, or the way we thought they would. Sometimes, our heart/ intuition was supposed to make the decision, and our brain usually realizes that after things fail.
I personally don’t think it’s right to hold an honest mistake against someone, god wouldn’t. Christians speak of Jesus, I’m pretty sure he would not do that either. It’s the basis of teachings on forgiveness. Acknowledging that being human comes with making mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes cause hurt. It is human to err, and as humans if we can acknowledge we’ve all done it at some point, it’s easier to forgive others errors. (Not always, the darkest and most painful will always be difficult to forgive.)
In my case, 6 months have gone by and my heart still aches frequently, I still miss him. I’m sad over the loss of someone I care deeply about. Yet I know those hurts are because I found love, if ever so brief. So, yes, if he reappeared and was sincere, I would take him back instantly.
Nathan made the same error early in our relationship, and I’m glad (14 years later) that I forgave and welcomed him back, he’s my rock, I still love him dearly. He’s my world and ultimately we both have learned and grown so much that the minor glitches were worth it.
I think if someone can’t find forgiveness, then they either have difficulty seeing our humanity, or there was no real love to begin with, or even a combination of the two. Again, just my thoughts, my hypothesis. May you all find a love that’s worth finding forgiveness for errors.