Hidden fashionista?

Clothes
Of children
Intended
To cover
To protect
Enable fun
Rarely
Fashion
Forward
Parents
Seldom
Focus
On theirs
Fitting in
Being stylish
To be
Popular
Or accepted
Most parents
More concerned
On affordability
Or functionality
Or durability
Infrequently
Parents
Focus on
Kids'
Desired
Choices

What then
When kids
Grow
Become
Their
Own
Are all
Supposed
To remain
Constant
Wear the
Same
Tired
Boring
Repetitive
Options
Or
Do those
Become
The comfort
Utilities
Choosing
To enable
Expansion
To better
Adults
Have
Far more
Choice
Freedom
Options
Finding
Fashion
Choice
Fashion
Voice
Making
Themselves
Visible

Fashion
Can be
All
Sensible
Comfortable
Utilitarian
And beautiful
Sometimes
It just
Takes
Time
Development
Via sampling
Finding
Your own
Comfortable
Beauty

Whether
Clothes
Fashion
Comfort
Utility
Fun
Exploration
Just
Be
Self

~Treasa Cailleach

I had a moment because of something my daughter did. The long explanation is not for here. The short of it was connecting dots that made me realize my fashion choices are perceived as sexy by people I wasn’t aiming to please… Multiple people. We’re talking almost a dozen, a couple of which are family. On one hand- yea, happy dance for accomplishing something I wasn’t sure was even possible. On the other hand- not my goal with those people, and I don’t dress to flaunt. There’s no cleavage or risque anything. I wear clothes that cover all my body hair possible. I pick clothes that are comfortable to me. But I wear pretty scarves and jewelry and make sure the clothes always are pretty colors or patterns that I like. I’m also quite fond of matching, I like to be color coordinated in an artistic way. I dress for me. Apparently, finding my voice in clothing somehow makes me look sexy. I’m sure having lost weight also helped, but mostly I have a closet full of things I like and enjoy wearing. Even my scrubs fit the same description. So if being myself as much as possible makes me sexy, then that’s great. Yet some of the reactions I’ve had, perplexed me, in regards to how I perceived the person in my experience. Our interactions implied a different relationship than the response to my clothing choices demonstrates. I’m not sure how to navigate that. I like being me and being sexy is a wonderful bonus, but some lines should not blur too much, and I shouldn’t have to change myself for others anymore. I prefer to be accepted as me being beautiful without blurring lines that I’m uncomfortable blurring. Anyway, it’s a tangent that stirred a thoughtful poem.

May you find your clothing voice and know that you are beautiful regardless of how people act or react to your clothing choices. May you know that if you dress sensibly and with comfort in mind then there is no reason to change for any reason. May you know that you can be professional and beautiful and comfortable simultaneously. May you know that you have the freedom to choose anything, so choose the absolute best for yourself in every way possible. Above all may you know that the divine loves and supports you in all that you do.

Om Shanti

About Treasa Cailleach

I'm a massage therapist working with chiropractic and the elderly; musician, artist, pagan, mom, B of LGBTQ, & polyamorous professional.

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